I believe that everything happens for a reason. And although we don’t have control of what happens to us, we can control how we react to such events. And in order to learn how to deal with unforeseen events, we must reflect on what went wrong, what went right, and how we can improve for the better.
Whether that’s through journaling, vlogging, or any other medium of expression, I truly believe that it is in the moments of silence and deep reflection that magic happens. So, my dear reader, below I present to you 5 things that I wish I had earlier in life and how you can go about it right now:
Healing is one of the hardest things you will ever do.
And no, healing is not bath bombs or Korean face masks – that’s only the surface level. Part of healing is about addressing traumatic childhood incidents that may have shaped unhealthy thoughts, habits, and patterns.
It all starts with noticing the effects that certain habits have on you, and being alert to any action, speech, or environment that may trigger this pattern of behaviour.
Once you implement this sense of awareness, it is very beneficial to seek guidance on how to implement healthier, attitudes, thought processes, and habits.
Approach people who have different beliefs with compassion and curiosity, not judgment, entitlement, or a holier than thou attitude. This creates an opportunity for mutual understanding and a potentially long-lasting friendship. It is now more important than ever to have allies.
Remember your limits
When helping a friend or a family member who may be struggling, it is important to remember your limits for the sake of your own health and wellbeing. No matter how much effort we may put into helping loved ones, it may never be enough.
Learn to be at peace with the fact that you cant end someone’s war with their internal self. So yes, do catch up with loved ones, have a cup of tea with them every once in a while, or even go out for a walk in the park with them.
But, always remember that your health mental wellbeing also important so take good care of them. As someone wise once said, “you can’t pour from an empty cup”.
Nurture your inner childlike qualities
Whether it’s curiosity, creativity, or a sense of adventure – trust me, you’re gonna need a light-hearted attitude in your adult life! I’m now 22 years old, but I still write as I used to when I was 9 years old. As the saying goes, “the creative adult is the child who never grew up”.
Get a mentor
Whether it’s a mentor who works in that industry that you’re interested in pursuing in the future or a life coach, I cannot emphasise the incredibly rewarding experience I’ve had from having mentors.
Not only do they give you career advice and potential opportunities, but they also offer amazing advice from life experience such as dealing with difficult people, developing sought-out skills, and other forms of guidance.
And boy do we all need a bit of guidance in our lives!
Stay clued up!
While it’s important to take a break from social media, news, and other trends, it is also important to see where our world is headed in terms of education, relationships, technology, and more.
One interesting fact was that in the past, a high IQ was held in high regard, then it was EQ (emotional intelligence) and now it is the ability to be highly adaptable to unforeseen events, such as the pandemic.
And there you go, 5 important lessons I wish I had learned earlier in life.
Remember, the learning curve never stops!
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